Me, My Berks and Our Fate

I was on the phone last night with one of my berkada. We were talking for hours. She’s very upset after her bf for 2 years broke up with her. Listening to her is like listening to myself about a year ago when WT broke up with me. I just chuckled as I’ve realized that 4 of us, out of 5, in our all-girls berkada share the same fate when it comes to lovelife. Of course you know my story… Now let me introduce the other 4 one by one..

GA - my ever career-oriented friend. When we were in college, she was the one who would not cut classes. She was always the one who studies the hardest whenever we have exams. Consequently, she had the highest GWA amongst us, graduating with honors. After college, she was hired as an MDF staff along with law grads. Not so long after that, she had a bf who used to be a childhood friend. But after a couple of years, they broke up. She still loves him but she cannot accept the fact that he wasn’t as goal-oriented as she is. "He isn’t a go-getter," she reasons when asked why she kept herself from going back with him. Yet, she’s hurting.

REN - my pusong-bato friend. She’s the one who gets friends with people so unlikely for someone to be friends with. She seldom gets attracted to guys. She’s not as emotional as most of us. But by some twist of nature, she found herself a bf just some time last year. But right before Christmas Day, she broke up with him. Why? Because of this usual kababawan feeling we girls have (so weird that this bato friend of mine is actually capable of feeling common girls’ insecurities pala). And yes, despite her pusong-bato, she’s now hurting.

MM - this is the girl that i was with the phone last night. She’s the oldest yet the smallest among us. She’s the working-student way back in college. Despite having to work to support her studies, she performed well in all our subjects. She’s also active in serving their village chapel. That was where she met her boyfriend. While GA and I were already shedding tears for our lost relationships, MM and her bf were just starting with their then blooming relationship. We never thought that after a while, they will have the same fate, that they will have to break up as well. Sad part is, MM’s bf has a cancer. No need to say she’s hurting so much now.

OEN - luckily, we have Oen as saving grace for our berkada. As we have all said in a lot of occassions already, Oen has the best of everything. Like GA, she graduated with honors even ahead of us since she took advanced courses during summer. Perfect family, good looks, and yes, she’s the most well-off. Though she found herself a good job after college, she had to resign because her family opened a school which she’s now managing. To top it all of, she has a very ideal bf (so-so looks, stable job, very loving and loyal, what else could you ask for?)

Hopefully, Oen will not share the fate of the 4 of us. Para meron namang isang magtatayo ng bandera namen.